Travis B. wrote:Yes, I understand that perfectly well. My question is why. My big problem is that one of the primary proposed reasons, general hostility within the development environment about development-related things, leads to unfortunate implications, that men can handle hostility and women can't, that women need to be treated with kid gloves while men don't.
I think you badly underestimate the amount of hostility women encountre just trying to live their live and get their work done.
Did you see this article about a male manager who switched places with a female employee simply by changing the names each of them signed their emails with? The results were shocking--if you're a man:
https://www.cnbc.com/2017/03/10/manager ... weeks.html.
And--as with all kinds of bigotry in action--"hostility" is more than just the blatant "
what colour is your thong harassment. Once you start paying attention to how much men talk over women, mansplain, disparage their ideas (only to later claim credit for them), dismiss their experiences, ignore them, exclude them, question them at every opportunity, etc. you can't unsee it again and it is
everywhere. If anything, I think white men are
less good at handling hostility, as evidenced by how many of them freak out simply at being called "white men".
In short, I think the answer is staring you right there in the face and you're ignoring it because you just can't imagine things are as bad as women keep saying they are.
ETA:
* the toxicity is bad for a large number of men too, but male geeks have strongly internalized a notion that toxic people should be coddled just in case they're geniuses
OMG, this. I just want to take the mythic archetype of the asshole genius and just keep stabbing it through the heart until I have no strength left in my body.