Zompist Bboard Again

Indian weddings are easy that way. If you're a man going to a Hindu wedding, you wear kurta pyjama. If you're a man going to any other kind of wedding, you wear a tux. If you're a woman going to any kind of wedding at all, you wear a sari (same with most social events). Weddings are never casual. Only eloping reliably is (sex also can be but shhhh!!!).

Vijay wrote: ↑Mon Aug 13, 2018 4:52 pmIndian weddings are easy that way. If you're a man going to a Hindu wedding, you wear kurta pyjama.

I wore kurta pyjama to a wedding once, but it wasn't Hindu, it was "creative formal" ("wear whatever you want as long as you feel dressed up"). It was so comfy I wish I could wear it to every formal event.

@ Linguoboy

Sounds to me like a good excuse to go clothes shopping

If it was me, I'd dig out a suit and shirt I already have and get a new plaid tie or waistcoat to follow the wedding theme. I'd also wear my pocket watch and chain.

An arty cousin once turned up to a family occasion wearing a red sweater plus yellow plaid trousers in the style of Rupert the Bear. We'd got used to her outfits by then though, so she got away with it. Not for everyone, but an option for some.

Ketumak wrote: ↑Tue Aug 14, 2018 2:39 pmSounds to me like a good excuse to go clothes shopping

It's like we have the same mind.

Ketumak wrote: ↑Tue Aug 14, 2018 2:39 pmIf it was me, I'd dig out a suit and shirt I already have and get a new plaid tie or waistcoat to follow the wedding theme. I'd also wear my pocket watch and chain.

I was thinking a plaid sportcoat myself. But I wouldn't say "no" to the right trousers either.

I've been back to doing a lot of worldbuilding and have built quite a bit of mythology for one of my more minor conpeoples (called the Tehemne). I even have a myth that I think I would actually like to turn into a novel. It would be so cool to actually write a book in my conworld instead of just fucking around forever with minor details.

Vijay wrote: ↑Mon Aug 13, 2018 4:52 pm Indian weddings are easy that way. If you're a man going to a Hindu wedding, you wear kurta pyjama. If you're a man going to any other kind of wedding, you wear a tux. If you're a woman going to any kind of wedding at all, you wear a sari (same with most social events). Weddings are never casual. Only eloping reliably is (sex also can be but shhhh!!!).

I still have the kurtas I bought for the Indian wedding I attended (in India). They're great for wearing to Diwali parties.

You could also wear it for Karneval, if they have that in Luxembourg - at least, they border on the area in Germany where Karneval really is a thing. I have an Uzbek robe and cap that I basically can't wear on any other occasion.

Most of the time when I was little, for Halloween, I wore a Fez cap, a thick bedsheet, and a golden necklace my mom gave me and pretended to be a Moroccan trader or something (who for some weird reason only spoke English and French and barely a word of any variety of Arabic ).

Victory is listening to the Sparta techno remix after spending a long, stressful time teaching someone to bake.

Vijay wrote: ↑Sat Aug 18, 2018 6:26 pmMost of the time when I was little, for Halloween, I wore a Fez cap, a thick bedsheet, and a golden necklace my mom gave me and pretended to be a Moroccan trader or something (who for some weird reason only spoke English and French and barely a word of any variety of Arabic ).

Because what's most important in childhood Halloween costumes is absolute verisimulitude.

Linguoboy wrote: ↑Mon Aug 20, 2018 11:12 am

Vijay wrote: ↑Sat Aug 18, 2018 6:26 pmMost of the time when I was little, for Halloween, I wore a Fez cap, a thick bedsheet, and a golden necklace my mom gave me and pretended to be a Moroccan trader or something (who for some weird reason only spoke English and French and barely a word of any variety of Arabic ).

Because what's most important in childhood Halloween costumes is absolute verisimulitude.

I never was much into Halloween, tbh. I don't eat sweet foods much, so the candy didn't really have any special appeal to me. But I was a kid and this was what I was expected to do at that age so I did. Plus my brother used to go, so then I wanted to tag along, I guess.

Speaking of happy things, I had a tooth yanked on Friday and it went pretty well. An hour after leaving the office, I was hanging out a bar with my buddies (though not drinking since I was waiting on a prescription for painkillers). The next day I went to a friend's party. I only started getting some pain toward evening when I put in my fake tooth before going out, so I made it an early night. So far the effects of the antibiotics on my digestion are worse than any direct effects of the extraction, though I'm getting kind of tired of gumming up soft foods.

I'm booking a train ticket to Ulaanbaatar for this weekend to find a new job!

Linguoboy wrote: ↑Mon Aug 13, 2018 3:48 pm

mèþru wrote: ↑Mon Aug 13, 2018 3:41 pmor none of them, but you'd probably be kicked out

That's for the afterparty.

The invite says "Classy Casual (plaid apparel encouraged)".

*rolls eyes*
I know it's not good to stereotype, but literally 50% of the gay weddings I've been to have had some sort of dress code encouraging plaid. Seriously people, do you think we all just have a separate "gay wedding plaid stuff" wardrobe waiting just for these occasions!?

Still, it does at least provide an icebreaker for guests who don't know each other. They can begin with "so, you couldn't be bothered to obey the dress code either?"

[actually, I went to a transatlantic gay wedding once and this provided an easy tell for nationality. The American half of the guests were all enthusiastically, if often uncomfortably, doing their best to abide their friend/relative's eccentric dresscode instructions. The British half couldn't be arsed, beyond the occasional token tie...]


EDIT: now that I say this out loud, it occurs to me that I've just been invited to way too many weddings.

I'm getting married next year(ish) and we have discussed giving out dress code instructions at random, with incredibly precise instructions. One third festival chic, one third black tie, one third dress-as-your-favourite-pokémon etc.

I'm campaigning for a big piss-up in a field or going to Las Vegas and getting married by an elderly female Elvis impersonator and as long as I can wear a top hat, I don't really care about the rest.

Gulliver wrote: ↑Tue Aug 28, 2018 2:12 amI'm getting married next year(ish) and we have discussed giving out dress code instructions at random, with incredibly precise instructions. One third festival chic, one third black tie, one third dress-as-your-favourite-pokémon etc.

My favourite wedding dress code ever was "creative formal", which my hosts described as "where whatever you want as long as *you* feel dressed up". We had everything from black tie to kimonos. It gave me a chance to show off the new kurta an Indian friend had just had made for me.

I'm more of a paisley/argyle type than a plaidster, but I can totally justify adding a plaid sport coat to my wardrobe. A coworker suggested prowling the second-hand stores, which I think is good advice. I only wish my husband were still around so he could wow everyone with his dress Campbell kilt and all its accoutrements.

Linguoboy wrote: ↑Tue Aug 28, 2018 9:21 amMy favourite wedding dress code ever was "creative formal", which my hosts described as "where whatever you want as long as *you* feel dressed up". We had everything from black tie to kimonos. It gave me a chance to show off the new kurta an Indian friend had just had made for me.

I'm more of a paisley/argyle type than a plaidster, but I can totally justify adding a plaid sport coat to my wardrobe. A coworker suggested prowling the second-hand stores, which I think is good advice. I only wish my husband were still around so he could wow everyone with his dress Campbell kilt and all its accoutrements.

I like that! Thank you. Definitely keeping that idea.

As a Campbell, I wholly approve - though I'm English enough that I'm not legally allowed to wear tartan. My Welsh cousin can get away with it but I'd be ground up and fed to the horses.

Gulliver wrote: ↑Tue Aug 28, 2018 9:47 amAs a Campbell, I wholly approve - though I'm English enough that I'm not legally allowed to wear tartan. My Welsh cousin can get away with it but I'd be ground up and fed to the horses.

Clan membership isn't conveyed by marriage so I know I couldn't get away with it, which is why I gave it away to his nephew after the second memorial service on the West Coast. Besides, I've spent my life rejecting the whole notion of wearing a kilt because "my ancestors could afford pants".

Linguoboy wrote: ↑Tue Aug 28, 2018 9:57 amClan membership isn't conveyed by marriage so I know I couldn't get away with it, which is why I gave it away to his nephew after the second memorial service on the West Coast. Besides, I've spent my life rejecting the whole notion of wearing a kilt because "my ancestors could afford pants".

That's good of you; it's much better than it sitting in a wardrobe forever.

I started working on a new novel today — it's a project I had in mind for some time now, but I finally found a satisfying idea for a first chapter.
Now I hope I manage to keep up the enthusiasm.