Re: Venting thread
Posted: Wed Jan 29, 2025 6:20 pm
Minor vent: My neighbor's young child is markedly unhappy and letting it be known. It's also 1 in the morning right now.
One thing you will learn is that modern Western societies generally suck at giving grieving the space it requires. Grief makes people uncomfortable. They treat it like an unfortunate illness and they want you to get "better" as soon as possible so they can interact with you without being reminded that they, too, will be forced to deal with this all someday. So take the time you need, and seek out people who respect that. (There's a reason why widows like me gravitate toward other widows; other folks just don't understand.)sasasha wrote: ↑Thu Jan 30, 2025 6:43 pmI wanted to provide an update. I found out what happened to my friend. Without going into detail, it was an accidental death. So perhaps he was really planning to meet with me. It's so tragic, but that helps. I have never known grief like it. It's ok while I'm busy. It's not when I'm not. But I also don't want to be busy. I want to grieve, it feels like it needs space. It's weird. I'm learning a lot, I guess.
I'm deeply grateful for your kind words, and deeply sorry for your loss.Linguoboy wrote: ↑Sat Feb 01, 2025 8:50 pmOne thing you will learn is that modern Western societies generally suck at giving grieving the space it requires. Grief makes people uncomfortable. They treat it like an unfortunate illness and they want you to get "better" as soon as possible so they can interact with you without being reminded that they, too, will be forced to deal with this all someday. So take the time you need, and seek out people who respect that. (There's a reason why widows like me gravitate toward other widows; other folks just don't understand.)sasasha wrote: ↑Thu Jan 30, 2025 6:43 pmI wanted to provide an update. I found out what happened to my friend. Without going into detail, it was an accidental death. So perhaps he was really planning to meet with me. It's so tragic, but that helps. I have never known grief like it. It's ok while I'm busy. It's not when I'm not. But I also don't want to be busy. I want to grieve, it feels like it needs space. It's weird. I'm learning a lot, I guess.
I'm relieved to see that you at least managed to get some closure. There are multiple people I've lost touch with over the years and which I can only presume dead, because I've never received any definite information one way or the other.
DoorDash does medicine sometimes. Maybe try that?Ahzoh wrote: ↑Tue Feb 04, 2025 2:39 pm After finally getting rid of the lingering cough from my last cold during the holidays, yesterday afternoon I got another respiratory infection and in many ways it's even worse. Phlegmy, squeaky, painful coughing fits and headache and muscle weakness.
My ability to deal with it is diminished compared to when I was staying at my mum's during the holidays since in order to get food I have to go to the cafeteria which is in another building 7 minutes away from my dorm and breathing the cold air makes my throat feel like it's on fire.
I need to go to the store to get more meds and maybe tylenol cold and flu but i don't know if I'd make it with how awful and weak I feel.
Does DoorDash operate in Canada? Specifically Thunder Bay?Man in Space wrote: ↑Tue Feb 04, 2025 4:50 pmDoorDash does medicine sometimes. Maybe try that?Ahzoh wrote: ↑Tue Feb 04, 2025 2:39 pm After finally getting rid of the lingering cough from my last cold during the holidays, yesterday afternoon I got another respiratory infection and in many ways it's even worse. Phlegmy, squeaky, painful coughing fits and headache and muscle weakness.
My ability to deal with it is diminished compared to when I was staying at my mum's during the holidays since in order to get food I have to go to the cafeteria which is in another building 7 minutes away from my dorm and breathing the cold air makes my throat feel like it's on fire.
I need to go to the store to get more meds and maybe tylenol cold and flu but i don't know if I'd make it with how awful and weak I feel.
Sorry to hear that, and I hope you feel much better soon. Incidentally, I have always wanted to see Thunder Bay.Ahzoh wrote: ↑Wed Feb 05, 2025 11:40 amDoes DoorDash operate in Canada? Specifically Thunder Bay?Man in Space wrote: ↑Tue Feb 04, 2025 4:50 pmDoorDash does medicine sometimes. Maybe try that?Ahzoh wrote: ↑Tue Feb 04, 2025 2:39 pm After finally getting rid of the lingering cough from my last cold during the holidays, yesterday afternoon I got another respiratory infection and in many ways it's even worse. Phlegmy, squeaky, painful coughing fits and headache and muscle weakness.
My ability to deal with it is diminished compared to when I was staying at my mum's during the holidays since in order to get food I have to go to the cafeteria which is in another building 7 minutes away from my dorm and breathing the cold air makes my throat feel like it's on fire.
I need to go to the store to get more meds and maybe tylenol cold and flu but i don't know if I'd make it with how awful and weak I feel.
Yes.Ahzoh wrote: ↑Wed Feb 05, 2025 11:40 amDoes DoorDash operate in Canada? Specifically Thunder Bay?Man in Space wrote: ↑Tue Feb 04, 2025 4:50 pmDoorDash does medicine sometimes. Maybe try that?Ahzoh wrote: ↑Tue Feb 04, 2025 2:39 pm After finally getting rid of the lingering cough from my last cold during the holidays, yesterday afternoon I got another respiratory infection and in many ways it's even worse. Phlegmy, squeaky, painful coughing fits and headache and muscle weakness.
My ability to deal with it is diminished compared to when I was staying at my mum's during the holidays since in order to get food I have to go to the cafeteria which is in another building 7 minutes away from my dorm and breathing the cold air makes my throat feel like it's on fire.
I need to go to the store to get more meds and maybe tylenol cold and flu but i don't know if I'd make it with how awful and weak I feel.
Thank you for your suggestion I was able to get some tylenol cold and flu so hopefully this sickness can stop kicking my ass.Man in Space wrote: ↑Tue Feb 04, 2025 4:50 pmDoorDash does medicine sometimes. Maybe try that?Ahzoh wrote: ↑Tue Feb 04, 2025 2:39 pm After finally getting rid of the lingering cough from my last cold during the holidays, yesterday afternoon I got another respiratory infection and in many ways it's even worse. Phlegmy, squeaky, painful coughing fits and headache and muscle weakness.
My ability to deal with it is diminished compared to when I was staying at my mum's during the holidays since in order to get food I have to go to the cafeteria which is in another building 7 minutes away from my dorm and breathing the cold air makes my throat feel like it's on fire.
I need to go to the store to get more meds and maybe tylenol cold and flu but i don't know if I'd make it with how awful and weak I feel.
oops. I just realized that this post is from 7 years ago. my bad