Birth and youth
In Nahua belief, each human being has three souls:
teyolia ('spirit, soul' more or less equivalent to personality),
ihiyotl ('breath', vital force) and
tonalli ('day' or 'fate'). You can lose your
tonalli through great emotion or distress, a fairly serious condition that ultimately leads to death. (Belief in the three souls, and the possibility of losing one persists in parts of rural Mexico).
Souls are created in the 13th and highest heaven,
Omeyocan ('place of duality') by
Ometeotl [oːmeˈteoːt͡ɬ] , the Dual God, the primordial god(s), paired gods
Ometecuhtli and
Omecihuatl, 'Lord and Lady Two' viewed as a single entity. They're brought to the fetus during pregnancy (or maybe to the child at birth?) by
Ehecatl, the Wind, an aspect of Quetzalcoatl.
Announcing a pregnancy was a major social occasion; elders from the calpolli and from the parents' family came to rejoice on the conception of a 'precious stone, a rich feather' (an example of
difrasismo, a kind of parallelism common in Nahuatl rhetoric).
The family rejoices, of course. But generally, the Nahua liked to keep the worst possibilites in mind. So congratulations included a reminder that the woman may miscarry, or that she may die in childbirth. What will happen next is in the hands of Our Lord, that is Tezcatlipoca: the expectant mother had to pray and trust in the Lord.
Pregnant women are treated with much reverence: they finally get a break from demanding domestic duties. They should not see anything scary or distateful; not gaze at any red objects; not chew gum; have sex in moderation (lest the child be weak) but abstain entirely after the seventh month, llest he miss a hand or a foot. I'm just giving a selection of taboos here, there were many more.
Something should be told of midwives, both priests and physicians, and held with the respect due to these. (Not as much respect, though, as is owed to a male physician or priest). Steam baths, herbal remedies helped with the pregnancy and childbirth. Midwives could also move an unconveniently positioned baby, and handle stillbirths. All in all, they were evidently
very competent and childbirth was less dangerous and painful than in Europe.
A woman during delivery was, metaphorically, a soldier at war and got appropriately rousing speeches. She enjoyed the protection of female goddesses, including Cihualcoatl and Yoalticitl
After birth, they were treated just like a successful warrior, with much reverence: she had captured a child much like a soldier captures a prisoner. She received the additional warning, that much peril still lay ahead. The baby could die early, or turn out to be an unworthy individual: all of that was up to Tezcatlipoca.
Women who died during childbirth were the distaff counterpart of soldiers killed in battle. They had the honor of accompanying the Sun during the afternoon (soldiers got the morning) and spent the afterlife in the West (Cihuātlāmpa [si.wa:tɬa:m.pa 'place of women') as
Cihuateteo (divine women). Cihuateteo were terrifying goddesses, haunting the crosswords, stealing children and inducing men to adultery. Soldiers attacked, quite viciously, during the funerals of women dead in childbirth, in the hopes of seizing body parts: the relic of a
cihuateotl was a powerful good luck charm.
As to the child, she or he was greeted with plenty of prayer and oratories. The gist of them was that she or he had come to a place of pain, for a nasty, brutish and short life: as in most occasions, the Nahua liked to focus on the negative and remind themselves that all was in the hand of Our Lord. Myself, I don't think it necessarily means that the Nahua believed that life sucks and then you die. The Nahuas valued humility -- even more, polite discourse revolved around exaggerate displays of humility. Their worldview sounds quite depressing to us but I don't think it was meant to be: they just didn't like to shy away from the fact that our life is short and we don't control much.
Male newborns were told that they were just in transit, so to speak: their true home was on the battlefield. To further hammer the point in, they were given a 'toy' shield and a miniature spear and their umbilical cord was entrusted to a soldier and buried near the frontline. Female newborns were told that their place was at home, and their umbilical cord buried near the hearth.
Fate, in Mesoamerican thought, was determined by the day of birth, or specifically its position in the 260 days ritual calendar. People were named according to their birth date; sometimes their name
was their birth date. That's why a Toltec legendary king is named 1 Reed, and a Quiché demon 7 Macaw; that's also why
tonalli means 'soul', 'fate' and 'day'. An astrologer was consulted; if the day of the child's birth turned out unlucky (and some days would condemn you to be a useless drunkard and die in shame, or other charming destinies) he would receive a name a few days later.
The name-giving was accompanied by prayer and ritual cleansing; all in all the ceremony was a lot like baptism.
I spare you the neighborhood party and the old folks getting drunk and pontifying.
Gender roles
A very quick word on these, as they should be unsurprising. Males work in the fields and die in battle like the manly, manly men they are; while women are in the kitchen, barefood and pregnant, they're beautiful but not too much, they rise before everybody else to prepare food. Just ordinary, run-of-the-mill sexism. They weren't quite as misogynistic as Europeans could be, though, and as if in compensation, women were held to be closer to the gods than men.
How about gay, queer, trans Mexica? Answering that should be unproblematic: the Nahuas shared European prejudice on the subject, and "sodomy" was punishable by cruel and unusual death.
At least, that's what they told the Spaniards, and there's the rub. The Spaniards had quite an unhealthy obsession with 'sodomy' and they considered it as evil as human sacrifice, if not more. (Case in point: Bernal Diaz notes with a great deal of approval that Moctezuma II 'is quite free of sodomy', nevermind that the king supposedly ate little kids for lunch...) So wouldn't it be natural for Nahua informants to align themselves with Spanish expectations? Wasn't the god Xochipilli said to be the patron of homesexuals? In any case, that question is the subject of much current research.
Early life
Early education was handled by the family; boys were taught to tend fields, to fish, and to row a canoe, while girls learned to cook, sweep, weave and spin. They would carry water and firewoods, starting from the age of 5. Even noble children were supposed to know something of agriculture, or weaving, as appropriate and there was no expectations that nobles would be free of labour. Lords and kings practiced polygamy and had an impressive number of children who, in turn, might take multiple wives: of course many
pipiltin would have to earn a living.
Punishments could be harsh at times, especially as children got older. One punishment listed for boys above twelve was being held upside down over cooking chilli peppers. Puncture with maguey thorns were practiced as well, both as religious mortification and as punishment. Girls were forced to sweep at night and outside the house.
Children weren't fed much, except on religious festivals (there were, fortunately, many of them) -- the idea was that they would learn to endure hunger. (That seems common across North America too, where many cultures likewise hardened their children to pain and hunger).
Children were especially holy and pure 'jewels, untouched by filth'. Their prayer was held to be especially sacred, so adults enrolled them to pray with them. Unfortunately, the most important prayer was in the middle of the night and a splash of ice-cold water was considered a good way to wake kids up.
School
The Mexica had a public education system. As we've seen, parents handled early education, but kids were monitored on occasion at the calpolli temple; young commoners that showed promise could be set aside as possible future priests.
The
tēlpochcalli ([teːlpoːtʃ'kalli], 'house of young men') trained male teens. It was more military training than school, and it was pretty rough training indeed. Students would eat very frugal meals, sweep the house, carry water and firewood, memorize songs and dance of praize to the gods; military training begain in earnest at the age of 15. At this point, they let a lock of hair grow, as a sign that they hadn't yet taken captives.
The older tēlpochcalli students would join military expeditions; they served as porters and bâtmen, mostly, but they would also team together to try and catch a prisoner.
The tēlpochcalli was administered and funded by the calpolli (each of them having its own school), with at its head the teachcauhtli ('captain'), chose among the successful soldiers of the neighborhood.
The wealthier commoners, nobles and would-be priests joined the calmecac ([kal'mekak] 'row of houses'), the religious college. Schooling began earlier than for telpochcalli students (as early as 5 or 6 for children of kings).
As in Ancient Sparta or in Britain at the height of the empire, the Mexica believed that adversity builds character, and that the best way to train the elite was to submit them to a lot of adversity, in the shape of a boarding school from hell.
Calmecac students were subject to the same harsh regimen as priests: plenty of ice cold water, self mortification (
cutting ears, tongue, genitalia, thighs and feet with maguey thorns
) and rigorous fasts. Transgression was punished by having both student and teachers wounding the guilty party with thorns. Food was thrown to the students as if they were dogs. The midnight prayer services continued of course, and included a kind of pilgrimage far in the woods as well.
Calmecac students were taught good manners, politeness, writing (or the quasi-writing system in use), prayers, hymns, dancing. Military instruction was included as well. There was also a good deal of fetching water, carrying firewood, and sweeping.
Naturally, calmecac and telpochcalli kids despised each other, or at least there was quite a bit of rivalry. On the occasion of certain festivals, fights would break out between ones (and fairly nasty ones, too).
Girls were ducated at the calmecac too; the curriculum included weaving and spinning instead of military instruction. Oh, and extra sweeping because you can't have enough sweeping.
A calmecac was administered by one of the temples and headed by one of the priests.
For everyone but the priests, who neither married nor left the calmecac (they were required to live there), education ended with marriage.