I was reading
this comment by Raphael, and it struck thoughts in me. I entirely missed Keenir's themming¹ of Malloc, I think because them is the most natural pronoun for me there, no matter who the person referred to is. So I ask the ZBB which third person singular pronoun do you use for animate referents² in which situations?
I
think³ it makes most sence to call
they my default third person singular animate pronoun⁴, even though it might not be my most common one. I
think³ I tend to use
he or
she in the following situations and
they elsewhere
- Continuity: if a someone is already assigned a third person singular animate pronoun, I'll stick to it, even if it isn't what I would've assigned myself
- Disambiguation: either there is one he-compatible and one she-compatible referent, or they is taken by a plural referent
- In formal writing
- Around particularly gendering language, including names, especially formal gendering language. It feels odd to call an actress anything but she, but an actor is most naturally they. After about a sentence, if the referent isn't already assigned a third person singular animate pronoun, they will be used
Together, these do make up a rather large chunk of third person singular animate pronoun utterances, especially 4), but trying to list instead the situations where I'd use
they would get hard quickly, so I prefer this analysis. I'm not entirely sure though³, hence my asking the forum at large.
¹ 'Tis a word now. I decree it.
² Okay, I get why this is shortened to ‘pronouns’ generally, no matter how much it annoys my inner pedant.
³ Insert caveats about the perils of self-analysis.
⁴ Edit: Redacted. See below